Years ago several women encouraged me to act on what they believed God was saying to them concerning me and ministry. I was slow about that because I was not going to move until I heard from God. In time, I did hear the voice of God and answered the call. Unfortunately, when some of these women saw me in their visions, they did not see themselves. They missed the part that impacted them. Once I said yes to God, He began to do amazing things in me and in my ministry. That meant that I was not the same unassuming, low-self esteem, quiet girl I had been for so long. That meant I no longer depended on the approval or affirmation of those I had previously “needed”. I did not need them in the same way. The relationships changed. The relationships did not have to change negatively, but there were those who could not handle the new me. Some changed sooner than others, and there are some who are changing now. I guess they did not expect my yes to God to supersede their expectations.
No matter how many times I am a victim of someones jealousy, I am always amazed. Jealousy isn’t anything new. As a matter of fact, Satan got beside himself with jealousy and desired to have what belonged to God (The Glory!). So jealousy has existed for ages. But that does not change the fact that it makes absolutely no sense to me.
Jealousy destroys relationships! And according to the Scriptures it is “as cruel as the grave”. If you have never been a victim of jealousy, you cannot imagine the lengths that an individual will go to to make you feel their pain. Thank God, I am long past allowing jealous people to impact my life negatively, but it still baffles me. Why can’t you be genuinely happy for a sister? What keeps a sister from celebrating another sister? Since I don’t know what a person had to do, or endure to be where they are, or have what they have, I am not lusting after their stuff or hating on their life! That takes too much energy and I have enough to work out with what God has given me.
You can be a happier person if you learn to celebrate someone else. If you are not happy with who you are, or what you have, CHANGE IT! You are wasting time and energy by making a sister feel your frustration. Get busy making your life what you want it to be and you will find that you don’t have time to worry about anyone else’s. Start supporting and promoting someone else. Force yourself to tell a sister that you are impressed with their achievements. YOU CAN DO IT! Find a reason to encourage a sister.