A Deeper Meaning . . .
After attending the celebration of one of my girlfriends becoming a woman of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., I began to consider again the importance of girlfriend relationships. The experience of the gathering was exciting, to say the least, but there was a deeper meaning for me that made me just a little more appreciative of the “girlfriend phenomena”. We ate, we laughed, we talked, we took pictures, and we told stories! None of the “girls” that got together are really girls, but grown women with children and some with grandchildren, but our hearts were filled with childlike joy and excitement as we celebrated one among us!
After celebrating all day, we thought we might stay up a while and share in the opening of gifts for the celebrated one. But as we were starting out the door of one friend’s house to go to the celebrated friend’s house, it occurred to each of us that we were tired and sleepy! So, we altered the plan! We decided, it was best to go to bed and get up in the morning (late morning), and enjoy breakfast together! After that, we could look at the gifts! But we were determined to get together! Why? So that we could have a do over of laughing, talking, taking pictures, and telling stories! That is what girlfriends do!
Determination . . .
I realized how important it was for me to be present in this setting, even though I was missing a Sunday morning worship service and my church picnic! I was doing something different from my norm for a girlfriend and it felt great! I traveled from one state to another to share in the celebration of a girlfriend! Actually, I left the funeral of a girlfriend in Connecticut to join the celebration of another girlfriend in Atlanta! And even after spending hours in an airport, due to several delays, missing a connection, no luggage, and an unexpected stay with another friend (in Baltimore/Washington area), I was determined to make the trip to celebrate my girlfriend! That’s girlfriend phenomena!
No matter what the age, there is something about sharing your life with girls you love, trust, and enjoy! There is a satisfaction that does not compare to anything else. And here’s the thing, each of the relationships are different and on different levels! Not all of the girls that came together for the celebration were best friends, or very close friends. As a matter of fact, I met new friends because of my girlfriend! I listened to my girlfriend (the celebrated one) talk about her best friend, her good friend, her childhood friend, etc., and never felt like any less of a friend! I gained new friends! OMG! I’m excited just writing about it. You need to know that I don’t use the word “friend” lightly! If you know anything about me at all, I am very careful about the handling of that particular relationship. But, the girlfriend phenomena allows for girlfriends on so many different levels. It is an amazing thing! It’s so amazing that I can’t be jealous of my girlfriend’s other girlfriends, because I either gain new friends or acquaintances. Either way I gain!
Friendship Trumps Membership . . .
So, I mentioned earlier that I was sharing in the celebration of a new member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority! Well, my girlfriend had so many Delta Sigma Theta’s celebrating her, I thought it was hilarious! I witnessed the excitement and energy of celebrating a friend, even if she did choose a different sorority! OMG! The Delta girlfriends came to celebrate the AKA girlfriend! One Delta friend travelled from Phoenix, Arizona to Atlanta, another from Boston, Massachusetts! This was serious!
Get A Girlfriend . . .
If you are reading this, and you don’t have girlfriends, or at least one good girlfriend, let me encourage you to make a change! Stop telling yourself you don’t need any girlfriends! You do! When you are lonesome for relationships, it is easy to convince yourself they are unnecessary! Don’t be fooled! Girlfriends are a blessing! And, if and when you have them, they should be cherished. Get a girlfriend! Girlfriend Phenomena is powerful!